The Healing Process!

People say this all the time that pain tends to go away eventually, but somehow that is very difficult for me to accept. Maybe the raw wound that initiates the pain tends to heal from the outside, but there remains a deep ache that keeps on reminding you of the raw pain that you went through. When the ache goes away, it leaves a scar that is the reminder of the torture that caused the scar in the first place. There are few, less prominent scars that tend to fade away gradually. However, the deep gashes in one’s body leaves scars that sometimes never goes away.

What should one do then? What if you as an entire being were inflicted with several deep gashes everywhere, and it has left huge scars on each an every part of you. 

How does one ever let someone else see past that? How do you see pass that on yourself? Is there even a medicine for that?

These inflictions change one person dramatically, you become a different person at least some times. And these are the times where you don’t even recognize yourself. When you remember the pain, see and feel the scars, this hatred starts bubbling inside you. You start spewing it out, as if a lava is erupting in you. And that is when you get really scared…that is the time when you realize that you are actually capable of hating someone so much, and one thing that becomes a fear for you is that you don’t want to be consumed by this hatred. 

But in order to avoid being consumed by this vicious hatred, one has to look past the pain, the scars. That becomes one of the most difficult tasks ever in life. You try to figure out a way to look past that, to find the person you were before all of that, and manage to tightly hold on to it, as if that is your only lifeline left.

I’m still trying to find myself…trying to look through this vast space which is extremely foggy, vision blurred, millions of images sifting through, trying to find that one piece that will help me get out of this mess once and for all. The part that confuses me is that does this critical piece lies in the past or is it somewhere in the future for me to stumble upon.


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  1. #1 by ZahraR on April 21, 2011 - 12:23 pm

    I agree with you. I don’t think time heals you, eventually you learn to adapt to, and live with the pain with time. Ultimately, you grow as a person and your threshold for pain increases with time too…

  2. #2 by Sarah Memon on April 21, 2011 - 5:43 pm

    Yeah you are right Zahra…it’s like you get immune to the pain..

  3. #3 by Zeeshan Zohaib on May 17, 2011 - 12:25 am

    Stumbled upon your word press. This is a really good post. I agree pain is something that is timeless, and can carry on forever. It is also dormant and can arrive at any moment. The best way I’ve realized to control pain or neutralize it, is to have a positive perspective. We all have gone through tough times in our past, and challenges are bound to reoccur. If one realizes that these challenges and trivial matters are from Allah. It gives us a sense of reason, and an inner strengthen to take on life by its horns. I’m not the most religious guy, i’m just your regular joe shmoe muslim. One thing I’ve realized though, in trivial times and painful moment’s faith is our best companion.
    You bring an interesting point about looking for that one person in all of us. That one person we were before all the pain and suffering we’ve gone through that may have changed us. I maybe wrong but that person is not in the past nor in the future, but in the PRESENT. That person is in the present, more stronger than the person in the past. The person in the past wasn’t ready for the trials of life, but now in the present you realize you’ve matured past the trails of life. In the present you realize after looking back at everything, you’ve become more stronger and wiser. Sure, life is going to take us all by surprise again, but that’s just another challenge which will mold us into better human beings.

    cool quote : “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift, and that is why it’s called the present.”–kung fu panda lol

    • #4 by Sarah Memon on May 18, 2011 - 1:55 pm

      I’m glad you liked this post of mine. I completely agree with that person being in the present. At the time I was writing this post, I was confused about many things…but just in the matter of days, some events unfolded in my life, which made me realize that the past has made me so much more wiser and stronger in so many ways, and it was not like that before.

      Thanks again for appreciating this post by commenting and sharing your thoughts!! 🙂

  4. #5 by zeeshan zohaib on May 18, 2011 - 5:41 pm

    your welcome. forgive me if I sounded rude or offensive, that wasn’t my intention. I pray Allah helps us all with our difficulties. And thanks for sharing a awesome post 🙂

    • #6 by Sarah Memon on May 18, 2011 - 8:53 pm

      No you were not rude at all…I got really happy by reading your comment, since it was an extension to what I had written. Thanks again!

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